astudyof contrast

a blog by ryan tauch

Being a Hopeless Romantic as a Guy

I’ve always been a “Hopeless Romantic”, I don’t know if it stems from me growing up around all women or if it’s just something innately instilled within me (probably the latter) but I truly believe in Love. When the thought of someone can make you actually Feel…That is what Life is all about. That is what we live for. When a person can make you want to laugh, cry, or scream…all in a day; that is being alive.

Because I’m so invested in this thought of Love, people around me will confuse it with me being “picky” but I cant help that I have values, standards and base my relationships on pure feelings. I just don’t want to waste my time, or anyone else’s. There’s nothing worse than when I see two people together that have no spark and no chemistry. I may be indecisive on a lot of things…many things actually but I do know the type of person I want in my life. She values life for what it is, appreciates family, loves genuinely, seeks adventure, and is…my soul mate. Jessica Alba, you know, before the whole husband and kids thing.

Now being a guy and having a sensitive side can give you a bad rep, but I’m here to tell you to take it in and own it! There’s nothing wrong with having feelings or showing feelings. There’s this stigma that men have to be tough, that they don’t know how to care, and are not in tuned with feelings but I’ve always tried to be the exception. I am that exception. You can be tough but weak at times and care and know how your actions affect others. There are enough assholes (excuse my language) in the world that get all the attention; it’s time for the genuine guys to get some recognition.

I cant tell you how many times I’ve day dreamt of magical moments or seen myself as the lead character in the countless number of “Romedies” I’ve watched and Love Stories I’ve read. Don’t get me wrong; I know relationships are something you work at and that magical moments are rare. It’s a marathon, not a sprint, and I’m in it to win it. It’s that want for true Love that makes me part of the man I am and I’m proud to admit that. This world needs more Love.

And of course, theres this part of me hoping that my future wife is reading this right now and to her I say...you were worth the wait.

-rt